"Enjoy life with the woman whom you love all the days of your fleeting life which He has given to you under the sun; for this is your reward in life"
(Ecclesiastes 9:9).
"I received a letter from a young lady saying, "I'm engaged to a nice man, but we are so opposite it seems we never agree on anything. Do you think we are so incompatible that we will not get along in a marriage?"
Possibly they are incompatible, but I know for a fact that if two people in a marriage are just alike one of them is unnecessary. In great part, God puts opposites together because opposites really do attract. In most marriages, one gets up early; the other prefers to stay in bed. One splashes in the sink; the other cleans up.
All of this is so that one will offset the extremes of the other one. If we look at differences as a problem rather than as a balance, we will end up arguing a lot. By recognizing the differences as an asset, a couple can become one working unit. That is what God desires.
Unless you have an absolute commitment to make the marriage work, it won't, because when the going gets tough you'll want out."
Great is Thy Faithfulness, by Larry Burkett
I know presently, for people my age including myself, God desires us to enjoy the days of our youth before worrying about something like marriage, but I just love learning about marriage and what kind of mindset to have in preparation for a relationship like that... I stumbled across this passage and thought it was absolutely perfect. So there ya go!
3 comments:
I agree... commitment is where it has to happen. I would say if she's not ready to be married, and is having doubts, they should hold off (not reset the date, just hold off and wait for God to let them know whether it is in his will for them to get married.). I know from experience, that if you argue about things, when you live together you'll argue even more... My husband and I have been learning more about love through our marriage commitment... what it means to be kind to one another, and be selfless... And it's HARD!
But really great at the same time.
We're coming up on our one-year anniversary in July, and I am so proud that we have come so far in even a year. I can't wait to see what the future holds. I can understand how it would be easy for so many couples to just give up, and get out. But the commitment part... you just have to suck it up, forgive and/or apologize and keep going...
Just some thoughts from a newlywed:)
(Oh... and a couple more important things... prayer (together and separately) about your relationship, and also for you to grow as a person...And, just being willing to keep communicating (in a kind way...). It's easy to want to shut down and put a wall up and play games like that. But that's how a lot of marriages fall apart.
I obviously feel strongly on this marriage matter!
Wow, thanks for all your input Ginger!! I really enjoyed reading your thoughts/life experience! :)
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